Gathered by a freshwater sea
Inspired to bring their ever-expanding clan all together at least once a year, two sisters initiated an annual tradition, now in its 10th year, that all family members savor: Lobsterfest.

By Megan Swoyer
Photography By Cybelle Codish

Ten years ago, Karen DeKoker and her sister, Charlene Gillies, started what would become their families’ most coveted tradition — an annual Lobsterfest, held at the DeKokers’ vacation home in Shelby near Stoney Lake and Muskegon on the white-sand beaches of Lake Michigan.

Born of a desire to bring their ever-growing clan together, the crustacean extravaganza welcomes Charlene and her husband Bob’s three sons and their families, as well as Karen’s three sons, their spouses and children. The hostess’ father, 91-year-old Don Burton of Grand Rapids, might look forward to the festivities most of all.

It’s a veritable paint-the-beach red, white and blue, as the festival always falls during the Fourth of July. Karen makes the most of the American motif by weaving the country’s colors throughout tabletop d écor, children’s giveaways and special t-shirts.

“We wanted to create a tradition people always came to,” says Karen, who with husband Neil built the cottage to be near Karen’s sister, residing 10 miles south of the DeKoker getaway. “When my kids grew up,” Karen recalls, “I felt that everyone was everywhere, and I wanted one place where we could all gather, at least once a year. ”

As the anticipated weekend approaches, Karen heads to Meijer to pick up approximately 25 lobsters. On the day of the feast, adults man the boiling lobster pots (always set up outdoors), while the kids, who range in age from 1 to 13, enjoy races, sandcastle competitions and water games at the beach. Karen’s son’s dog, Charlotte, a border collie, romps among the children in great anticipation of perhaps some leftovers later in the day. Kaylie, a white Maltese, also hopes for treats.

Cooking and playing works up quite an appetite. Because the lobster chefs (some of the male relatives) always crack the shells right after they’ve been boiled and before serving, it’s easy to dig in, Karen explains. “We’ve got it down to a science,” she shares.

Beyond the fresh and tender lobster meat, other dishes include potato salad (mom’s recipe reigns supreme), corn bread, tomato salad, blueberry muffins, corn salsa, apple coleslaw, vegetable pizza, baked brie, and cream-filled chocolate cookies (a.k.a. Devil Dogs). Campfire s ’mores come later.

When the dinner bell rings, it’s not hard to find your place as Karen typically creates themed place cards. One year she used white pens to inscribe names on lobster plaques; another, the creative hostess burned names onto her collection of driftwood.

Gathered around the tables, the group reminisces about years gone by and revels in the children’s physical changes of the past year.

“No one ever misses this,” Karen says of the tradition. “It’s just a wholesome thing to do, being on the beach with each other, playing in the water, dining and creating great memories. It doesn’t get better.” ≈

Megan Swoyer is a Troy-based freelance writer and editor.

DEVIL DOGS (pictured left)
Cookies
1 cup butter
1 cup sugar
1 egg
1 teaspoon vanilla
1 cup milk
Cream together with mixer.
 
2 cups flour
1 1/2 teaspoons baking powder
1 1/2 teaspoons baking soda
1 1/2 teaspoon salt
1/2 cup cocoa
 
Add above dry ingredients to creamed mixture. Drop by teaspoon onto ungreased cookie sheet. Bake at 425 degrees for 5 minutes. Cool. Spread cream mixture between two cookies. Store in airtight container in refrigerator.


Filling

1 cup milk
4 tablespoons flour
Cook on slow heat until paste-like. Cool.
 
1 cup butter
1 cup sugar
1 teaspoon vanilla
Cream these three ingredients with a mixer.
Gradually combine both mixtures until consistency of whipped cream. Cover and chill to later spread on cookies.